Q&A: 33

Mahalo for asking this question. The first step is to remember that everyone understands and perceives things differently. Find out what and how your partner understands and perceives things. I have been very surprised by how many simple misunderstandings have gotten out of control. Words, phrases, actions, and non-actions often mean different things to different people at different times. Talk things over with your partner until you reach a mutual understanding.

The second step is very hard: create an environment around you that your partner cannot resist. This environment is also different for everyone and can be different from day to day, even hour to hour. Christians can create an environment around Jesus. Create an atmosphere that both of you enjoy so much that you will both do anything to remain there.  Following these two steps, even if forced at first, will soon turn into a lasting, strong relationship. 

Matthew 7:12, So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

Luke 6:31, Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Philippians 4:4-8, Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

“Remember, if you don’t understand, ask!”